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Mind Vitamin: Get Your Life Into Gear

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Put the phone away. Turn off the computer. Get up, start moving and go engage with your life!

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Hey, it’s Jesse here, and right now you’re scrolling, you’re searching, you’re watching this video. And, I’m gonna go out on a limb here and say that the reason you’re doing that is because you don’t have a project right now that has you absolutely enchanted.

Something that you’re completely connected to, that you’d rather be doing that than anything else in the world. I don’t think that that’s what’s going on for you, because, you and I are here having this conversation. So, why? Why are you scrolling instead of being productive, enjoying yourself, getting off of this social media platform. Why are you here instead of doing something else?

That’s a legitimate question. Now, I might not be able to hear your exact answer right now, but think about it. Why are you here, watching this video, instead of out in your life, doing the things that actually make a difference for you? Is it because you don’t know what to do?

I’m gonna challenge you a little bit on that. I think we always know what to do. I mean, if we tell ourselves the truth, we always know what is the best next step that we can take. And, I don’t know what it is for you right now, but you do. You know what the next thing is that you could do, that would make you feel a little bit better.  That would make you feel a little more productive, a little bit more focused, a little bit happier, a little more peaceful, a little more confident, more powerful.

C’mon, these are the feelings of life that we’re all going for. Scrolling through social media, looking for videos to distract yourself, or try and motivate yourself. Well, maybe this is the video, maybe this is the one you’ve been scrolling for. And, maybe this video is the one to remind you that you have a life, that is your personal property.

And that every day is an opportunity to make that property more valuable. That property, called your life, can appreciate. In other words, it can increase in value. All you have to do is just get in gear. So, if you’ve been telling yourself, “I don’t know what to do,” this is the video to remind you that you do know.

Deep down inside, you always know what to do. So, why not take some responsibility? Why not lean into a little bit more action? Why not, right after this video, put your phone away, turn off your computer, get up, walk away, go do something, go engage with your life. It’s that simple. I’m gonna do the same thing myself. I’m gonna get out of this video, and go do something. You do it too.

That’s how life begins to expand even more. And that’s how we get to have a life that is something that we are really, really enchanted by.

Mind Vitamin: How to Reinvent Any Relationship

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How to reinvent any relationship.

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How many ways are there to describe a relationship?

And yes, I’m talking about the traditional labels that we always use. Let’s go through a few of them.

Wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, partner, significant other. Any others come to mind?

I mean, these are labels that when somebody starts to ask you, “Oh, who is this?” And you say, “Oh, I’d like you to meet…” and you say their name, and then immediately we’re sort of conditioned and programmed to use this label, to use this word.

But here is one of the challenges that comes with these labels. Because everybody is using these labels, we all start to get a sense of what that means, and then these unconscious agreements start to get formed, and then you start to hear the dreaded language coming in of, “Well, you know what they say…”

Do you know what they say? And by the way, who are “they”? And what do “they” know about you and your relationship and exactly what it is that you want to experience and to create and to co-create with someone else that you’ve chosen to be in this close connection with?

So what if instead of trying to contain all of the energy, and all of the connection, and all of the communication, and all of the growth, and all of the sharing, and all of the adventures, and all of the creativity and spontaneity, and intimacy and love that’s possible between two human beings, what if instead of trying to contain all of that into a single word, what if we just left the words aside?

I’m not saying that the connection has to change, you can still be that of course. But what if we started to get a little more creative with how we described this union, how we described this connection with somebody that we’ve decided is so important in our lives.

I mean, imagine rolling up to a social event and introducing this person and saying, “Hi, I’d like you to meet my muse,” or, “Hello, have you met my lover?” or, “Hi, I’d like to introduce you to my soulmate. “I would like to introduce you to the wind beneath my wings.” “I’d like to introduce you to the most empowering being I’ve ever had the good fortune to share space and time with.”

Just imagine as their jaws hit the floor and maybe they try and seek a more conventional conversation.

Look, I’m all about being respectful, and there are certain traditions which are absolutely valuable. But when it comes to your life and the living of your life, what if you just approached your relationship the same way that you can actually approach every part of your life? With creativity, with ingenuity, with innovation, with reinvention.

What if the reason why relationships get stale is because we stop inventing them? What if instead, you decided to approach that relationship as a blank canvas every single day?

And every day you approach this person that you’ve chosen to connect with, you approach them as a brand-new person, instead of seeing them the way that you saw them yesterday.

What if you start to look for something new? Instead of trying to just know this person, what if you recognize that this person is always evolving?

They’re always creating themselves into something new. Is it possible to re-fall in love with the same person? I think it is. In fact, it’s inevitable.

If you’re always doing that for yourself, if you’re continually reinventing yourself, if there is more of you to bring to the relationship.

So just a few thoughts, instead of trying to cram these connections into these words that everybody thinks they understand, why not take a more creative approach?

Why not?

Mind Vitamin: How to Be Unforgettable

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If you want to achieve more in any area of your life, it always starts with this.

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I’m going to share with you a secret that can give you a real advantage when it comes to the accomplishment of your goals, not only accomplishing more of what you want to accomplish, but enjoying the process a lot more. 

We live in a time right now where there’s a lot of emphasis on intelligence and learning and accumulating more facts and knowing more and being more and being better. And that’s cool, that’s all natural and healthy, and that’s fun. 

But I’m what talking about goes a lot deeper than that actually, and what I’m talking about is true presence. 

Think about when you’re in a conversation with somebody and you really get the sense that there’s no place else they’d rather be than right there with you. You can tell that their mind isn’t wandering somewhere else. They’re right there with you. 

And just notice how that feels, when you’re in a conversation with somebody who doesn’t try and get in their own agenda. It’s not like they are waiting for you to finish talking so that they can tell you what they really want to tell you. Doesn’t that just feel good when you’re with somebody who’s actually present? 

Well, this is something that you do as well when you’re present with somebody, when you’re just there, not waiting for them to finish so you can get in your information, not wishing that you were somewhere else, but truly present. 

Instead of being on your phone or talking to somebody else, you’re just actually there with that person. Relaxed, comfortable in your own skin, nothing to hide, nothing to prove. 

There’s a certain energy to that, and this energy is very powerful. In fact, as you explore this space of presence with yourself and with another what actually occurs is a vacuum of judgment, and this is when people really begin to open up. 

They begin to feel more of themselves, and they begin to feel more of their own essence. They start to feel more of their own thoughts, and this can be incredibly transformative.

Now, for most of us, this is like emotional oxygen, to just sit with someone or be in a conversation with somebody who’s truly present. This is a very rare experience, and because it’s so rare, it’s also incredibly valuable. 

So regardless of what your relationship with this person might be, whether it’s a personal relationship or a professional relationship, or maybe just a stranger that you find yourself having a conversation over a transaction. 

The power of presence is an incredibly attractive advantage, and I don’t mean that as a competitive thing. You just stand out, and you become unforgettable, and the best part is you get to feel more of yourself and you start to feel more like yourself, and this energy of nothing to hide and nothing to prove can change your whole life. 

And this power’s available to you right now. It’s available to you in every conversation. All it takes is a simple choice. 

So why not allow yourself to practice being present and just see what shows up.

 

Mind Vitamin: From HeartBreak to HeartWake

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How to stop the pain of HeartBreak, and grow right into the life that’s waiting for you.

 

EPISODE TRANSCRIPT:

I don’t know if you’ve ever experienced the feeling of having your heart hurt or even like a lot of us describe it, having your heart broken. If you have or if you’re going through this right now then this video may be useful for you.

I know the feeling of feeling like your heart is broken and the extreme pain that feels like, it feels like your life is over. It feels like your life is ending. It feels like life that you wanted, a life that you wished for is not only gone, but will never come back. And it is the most intense pain.

I’ve felt the experience of having so much, so much love to give and so much love to express and yet not feel like there’s a place to put it, not feel like there’s a place to express it and imagine like being a tortured artist like Van Gogh and having this image in your mind so clearly, this painting, and yet you don’t have a canvas. There’s no place to share this vision that you have.

Heartbreak takes a lot of different forms. But here’s what I’ve discovered. What I’ve experienced in my own life is that that pain, like all pain, is feedback and it exists to get our attention so that we can become more present to what we’re actually feeling and if we can have the courage, if we can have the fortitude, if you can just have the guts to hang in there and just let that pain bring you some sort of message, then I think that invariably what’s on the other side of that message isn’t to shut down, it’s not to feel that you just have to live with this heartbreak forever.

I think instead this feeling of heartbreak is to wake us up. In my own life I’ve experienced that on the other side of this pain is this unbelievable expanded capacity to not only give love, but to receive love.

You get cracked apart and you get broken, but you can never be actually broken. Your old self may be gone, your old heart might not fit anymore, but that’s because you’ve been expanded and so if you’re experiencing this, if you’re experiencing the pain of not feeling the love that you need and not feeling the expression of the love that’s inside of you, then maybe this is a signal, maybe this is a sign that there’s more for you to give and that there are more creative ways for you to give.

Maybe this is a chance for you to take this inner spark and decide to do something a little bit different, decide to express in a whole new way.

Whatever it is I know that this pain isn’t permanent and if you continue to love yourself and if you continue to express yourself in an authentic way, if you continue to honor your vision, this world has a very remarkable way of filling in all of that new capacity with something that right now you might not even be able to comprehend, something so powerful and something so beautiful that maybe right now you don’t even have the words to describe it, but it’s there.

You really can go from heartbreak to heart wake. This can be your reality.