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Mind Vitamin: Get Your Life Into Gear

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Put the phone away. Turn off the computer. Get up, start moving and go engage with your life!

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Hey, it’s Jesse here, and right now you’re scrolling, you’re searching, you’re watching this video. And, I’m gonna go out on a limb here and say that the reason you’re doing that is because you don’t have a project right now that has you absolutely enchanted.

Something that you’re completely connected to, that you’d rather be doing that than anything else in the world. I don’t think that that’s what’s going on for you, because, you and I are here having this conversation. So, why? Why are you scrolling instead of being productive, enjoying yourself, getting off of this social media platform. Why are you here instead of doing something else?

That’s a legitimate question. Now, I might not be able to hear your exact answer right now, but think about it. Why are you here, watching this video, instead of out in your life, doing the things that actually make a difference for you? Is it because you don’t know what to do?

I’m gonna challenge you a little bit on that. I think we always know what to do. I mean, if we tell ourselves the truth, we always know what is the best next step that we can take. And, I don’t know what it is for you right now, but you do. You know what the next thing is that you could do, that would make you feel a little bit better.  That would make you feel a little more productive, a little bit more focused, a little bit happier, a little more peaceful, a little more confident, more powerful.

C’mon, these are the feelings of life that we’re all going for. Scrolling through social media, looking for videos to distract yourself, or try and motivate yourself. Well, maybe this is the video, maybe this is the one you’ve been scrolling for. And, maybe this video is the one to remind you that you have a life, that is your personal property.

And that every day is an opportunity to make that property more valuable. That property, called your life, can appreciate. In other words, it can increase in value. All you have to do is just get in gear. So, if you’ve been telling yourself, “I don’t know what to do,” this is the video to remind you that you do know.

Deep down inside, you always know what to do. So, why not take some responsibility? Why not lean into a little bit more action? Why not, right after this video, put your phone away, turn off your computer, get up, walk away, go do something, go engage with your life. It’s that simple. I’m gonna do the same thing myself. I’m gonna get out of this video, and go do something. You do it too.

That’s how life begins to expand even more. And that’s how we get to have a life that is something that we are really, really enchanted by.

Mind Vitamin: A Message For Those In Pain

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A message for those in pain.

EPISODE TRANSCRIPT:

The failure to understand the difference between pain and suffering is the cause of more silent misery worldwide for human beings everywhere, than just about anything else.

The reality is that most people don’t even allow themselves to tell the truth about whatever pain they might be in. And we live in a world today that is completely dedicated to the avoidance and distraction and sedation when it comes to pain and discomfort. 

So you ask the average person, hey how are you doing? They go, “I’m fine.” But are you really? 

So this message is for that rare person who has actually begun to tell themself the truth, that things maybe are not as good as you thought that they once were. 

Or maybe things are not as good as you’d like them to be and you’ve begun to feel that uneasiness, you’ve begun to feel that pain but then what do you do with it? 

We live in a culture that is wired to ignore pain. So one of the skills that we have to develop is understanding the massive difference between pain and suffering. These two could not be further apart. 

Pain is simply feedback. It’s simply a signal that you get in your body, in your mind, it’s a signal that you begin to feel, a set of sensations that doesn’t have any meaning by itself and yet if we’re not careful, it’s easy to assume that this signal of pain is just something you have to accept. 

This is just something you have to put up with. This is just how life is and then you start to connect with other people that are also experiencing this sensation, this feedback called pain. 

And then what do people do? They normalize it. They say, “Well this is just how it is.” And you start hearing things like, “Well, it is what it is.” 

Look, nobody who was really living a fulfilled life uses that phrase, it is what it is. 

Your understanding of pain and the difference between pain and suffering is a fundamental skill that you must develop. Pain is just feedback. It’s just a sensation. It’s just information for you to do something with. 

But suffering, suffering is completely optional. There is no reason on this planet why you must continue to suffer. Suffering, no matter how many times it’s been glorified and honored and no matter how many tributes and monuments humans build to those that have suffered, that doesn’t mean that it’s right. That doesn’t mean that it’s necessary. 

In fact, suffering serves no purpose because it’s totally different than pain. Pain is just feedback. That serves an amazing purpose to get you present so you do something different to change the situation to get out of pain, ’cause when you’re in pain, and you pretend everything’s just fine, when that quiet voice inside of you is screaming at you, saying, “This isn’t working.”, is when you say, “Shut up!”, ’cause you don’t want to deal with it. 

Look, I get it. I know it takes courage to face your pain. It takes courage to feel your pain. But that’s pain’s purpose. 

Pain’s purpose is to get you present and once you become present to your pain, new awarenesses start to bloom and blossom. 

You begin to have new insights. You become aware of choices that you didn’t know you had. You begin seeking solutions and alternatives. You begin to research different ways of improving your situation. 

Now this pain has a purpose. Now you’re not in suffering because you’re making progress. You’re expanding and you may not know what’s next and that might be scary. 

It might be terrifying to know that what is happening isn’t working anymore. But you don’t know what to do next. 

And this might be happening in your physical body. It might be happening in your job or in your business. And it might be happening in a personal relationship. 

But my message here for you is that you don’t have to suffer. Suffering is optional. 

And I know that it hurts sometimes. It might hurt a lot. But that hurt, that pain, is a gift. 

It’s only here to get you present, so instead of distracting yourself, instead of lying to yourself, instead of saying it’s not that bad, instead of beating yourself up because you are where you are, why not just take responsibility and allow that pain to become a teacher. Allow that pain to become a catalyst. Allow that feedback and that signal to motivate you to do something different. 

This is when suffering ends. And you don’t have to suffer. The purpose of life is not suffering. There are no prizes for the person who suffers the most, not in the real world, not in the natural world. 

So stop suffering. Embrace whatever feedback you’re getting, even if it’s painful, because that’s the moment the pain begins to go away. 

That’s the moment your entire life begins to shift because you’ve taken back control of your own powers of choice.

Mind Vitamin: How to Be Unforgettable

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If you want to achieve more in any area of your life, it always starts with this.

EPISODE TRANSCRIPT:

I’m going to share with you a secret that can give you a real advantage when it comes to the accomplishment of your goals, not only accomplishing more of what you want to accomplish, but enjoying the process a lot more. 

We live in a time right now where there’s a lot of emphasis on intelligence and learning and accumulating more facts and knowing more and being more and being better. And that’s cool, that’s all natural and healthy, and that’s fun. 

But I’m what talking about goes a lot deeper than that actually, and what I’m talking about is true presence. 

Think about when you’re in a conversation with somebody and you really get the sense that there’s no place else they’d rather be than right there with you. You can tell that their mind isn’t wandering somewhere else. They’re right there with you. 

And just notice how that feels, when you’re in a conversation with somebody who doesn’t try and get in their own agenda. It’s not like they are waiting for you to finish talking so that they can tell you what they really want to tell you. Doesn’t that just feel good when you’re with somebody who’s actually present? 

Well, this is something that you do as well when you’re present with somebody, when you’re just there, not waiting for them to finish so you can get in your information, not wishing that you were somewhere else, but truly present. 

Instead of being on your phone or talking to somebody else, you’re just actually there with that person. Relaxed, comfortable in your own skin, nothing to hide, nothing to prove. 

There’s a certain energy to that, and this energy is very powerful. In fact, as you explore this space of presence with yourself and with another what actually occurs is a vacuum of judgment, and this is when people really begin to open up. 

They begin to feel more of themselves, and they begin to feel more of their own essence. They start to feel more of their own thoughts, and this can be incredibly transformative.

Now, for most of us, this is like emotional oxygen, to just sit with someone or be in a conversation with somebody who’s truly present. This is a very rare experience, and because it’s so rare, it’s also incredibly valuable. 

So regardless of what your relationship with this person might be, whether it’s a personal relationship or a professional relationship, or maybe just a stranger that you find yourself having a conversation over a transaction. 

The power of presence is an incredibly attractive advantage, and I don’t mean that as a competitive thing. You just stand out, and you become unforgettable, and the best part is you get to feel more of yourself and you start to feel more like yourself, and this energy of nothing to hide and nothing to prove can change your whole life. 

And this power’s available to you right now. It’s available to you in every conversation. All it takes is a simple choice. 

So why not allow yourself to practice being present and just see what shows up.

 

Mind Vitamin: You Get What You Tolerate

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In your life
You don’t get
What you work for.

Or even
What you’re committed to.

You get
What you tolerate.

EPISODE TRANSCRIPT:

There’s no shortage of information in the world about how to get what you want, how to take your dreams and turn them into reality, how to live your best life and all that stuff. 

And I believe in that. I believe that that is possible and I believe that, since it’s possible to live the life that you actually want, why wouldn’t you? It just kind of makes sense. 

But there’s a philosophy that I found that is actually, in many ways, superior. It’s produced a much better result than the traditional approaches to success and hustle and struggle, and it really comes down to this. 

In your life, you don’t get what you work for. You don’t even get what you’re committed to. You get what you tolerate. Tolerance.

And I’m not talking about from a humanitarian standpoint. I’m not talking about being empathetic towards others. 

What I’m talking about is, in your life, the things that you allow into your life. If they are unpleasant, displeasing, low-energy, suppressing, if there’s anything going on in your life right now socially, financially, physically, if there’s any part of your life that is not to your liking and you find yourself tolerating it, putting up with it, saying it’s not that bad, this is in fact a demonstration of your standard, and there is a direct correlation between the level of your standard and the level of tolerance that you’re willing to entertain. 

This, in fact, creates a quality of life. In fact, the people that have the highest tolerance, the people who are willing to put up with the most garbage, these are also the people that have the lowest standards. 

Quick example. You find yourself in a conversation with someone repeatedly that is a low-energy conversation, it’s draining you, it’s sucking your enthusiasm right out of you. In fact, when you go to meet with this particular person or these people, you feel that knot in your stomach, like ugh, not this again. 

And yet, you continue to go back over and over and over again. You are tolerating this relationship, tolerating this connection even though it is clearly not in your highest interest, it clearly doesn’t energize you. 

So that high tolerance for pain, that high tolerance for discomfort is simultaneously a low standard. And it shows up in every area of people’s lives. 

The more that someone is willing to put up with, the more pain and suffering that they’re willing to entertain, the lower their standard actually is. And so I just don’t see any glory or any justification in tolerating things that aren’t good for you. 

Sure, pain comes and goes. You may even choose to experience pain or discomfort. 

You might choose to go through a workout, for example, that you know is gonna be a little bit brutal, but you’re doing it consciously, there’s no suffering. You’re simply experiencing that feedback and you know that, on the other side, is this expanded capacity, and that’s cool. 

But I’m talking about the day-to-day living of life. There’s no reason for anything to be on your calendar that doesn’t produce energy for you. Energy is the ultimate currency, not time, not money. Energy. 

How do you feel? How do you feel about the activities and the actions that are in your life? How do you feel about the relationships in your life? How do you feel about your own relationship with yourself? 

And if there’s anything in your life experience that is draining, that is sucking the energy out of you, there’s no judgment about this, this just might be an opportunity for you to look at what you’re tolerating and then ask yourself a simple question. 

Do I really have to keep putting up with this? If this is clearly not in my best interests, if it’s clearly not allowing me to be the best version of myself, then am I actually being of the most value to other people? 

There’s no right or wrong answer for this. This is a uniquely personal experience. But I will just invite you to consider the connection between having lower tolerances and higher standards. 

The moment you feel that something isn’t right for you, there’s no need to keep making sure that it’s not right for you. Once you know, you know. 

And man, when you have that level of clarity, when you have that inner knowing and you know that something is not right for you, or you know that something is right for you, once you know and then you know that you know, then it doesn’t matter if anybody else knows or not because you don’t require permission to live your life, you don’t require approval in order to follow that inner signal that’s inside of you. 

So there’s no glory in having a high tolerance for stuff that just doesn’t work for you. Suffering more isn’t gonna make it better. It’s only gonna get you more practiced at suffering. 

So maybe this particular mind vitamin, this particular message is just a reminder for you that there’s no reason for you to keep tolerating things that aren’t working. 

Raise your standard, lower your tolerance, and then just watch. Watch as your capacity to experience more joy, more fulfillment, to create a more meaningful experience of life now, not later. 

That capacity just expands, and the better it gets, the better it can get. Test it for yourself and see how it goes.

 

Mind Vitamin: The 4 Classes of Advice (Which One Do You Value Most?)

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Before you take someone’s advice, watch this video first.

 

EPISODE TRANSCRIPT:

You ever found yourself wishing that you could learn faster? You know, to take all this scouring of the landscape and finding the perfect answers and just cut that down and get what you need so that you can get the results that you want.

Well, there is a way, there’s a way to dramatically shorten your learning time so that you can cut through the stuff that doesn’t work and find what does work for you right now because if you’re doing that, then you don’t waste time learning, you don’t waste time finding things that may or may not work.

And in my own journey I found that there are different categories of advice, there’s different categories of information and without knowing this, without understanding these categories, it’s very easy to find yourself wasting days, weeks, months, sometimes even years getting information that actually is preventing you from achieving what it is that you really want to achieve.

So with that being said, here are the four classes of advice ranked from least effective to most effective.

So the first one is advice that is unsolicited and unqualified. What does this mean? It means this is advice that someone is giving you that you haven’t even asked for and we’ve all been there, right?

The moment you decide that you wanted to achieve something, or maybe you start talking about it with family or friends or co-workers and everybody’s got an opinion. Everybody has an idea of what you should do to accomplish your goals and to achieve your dreams.

This advice may or may not be qualified, but it is frequently unsolicited. And so this is the first thing to ask yourself. Did I ask for this advice?

If you didn’t ask for the advice, then you have every right to say hey, you know what, it just isn’t right for me. I don’t think this is really what I need to be observing right now or this not what I need to be absorbing.

So with that in mind, you can then ask yourself, is this advice qualified? If somebody’s giving you advice, and they’re not getting the results that you want to get, in my book this person is not qualified to advise you.

They may be a beautiful human being. They may be getting results in other areas that are cool, but unless they’re getting the exact results or something very close that you wish to experience in your own life, to me that person is not qualified.

So the worst type of advice in the world is unsolicited, unqualified advice. Now we moved up the quality scale here in the world of advice and information and now we have the second category of advice, the second class, and this is advice that is qualified, but still unsolicited, unasked for.

And in case you haven’t noticed, there’s no shortage of this advice, either. There’s people that have certifications and maybe even some actual qualification, they’ve actually done what it is that you want to do, but you’re still not asking for it.

And how annoying is it, how much does it kind of get under your skin when you’re going about your own business and somebody comes up and says hey, you know what, I have just the thing.

And they’re giving you advice that you’re not asking for.

Even if they’re qualified, doesn’t a part of you just kind of resist that a little bit? Now, yes, that might be stubborn. It might not be the most intelligent thing to do. If somebody is qualified, we should listen to them. But until we are asking, our minds remain closed.

And if you’ve ever experienced giving somebody advice, if you’ve ever experienced seeing someone, maybe somebody very close to you that you know is having a hard time, somebody that you know you can help and you feel that impulse to just go teach them something, just go help them because they’re having a hard time, and then you wonder why they’re not taking your advice.

It’s simple. Advice that is not being sought, advice that is not being asked for, that’s a mind that’s closed.

And so if you’re in the space of helping people, if you’re somehow involved in the conveying of your own wisdom so that other people can win, this might mean that you’re a parent and you have kids that you want to see win.

Until a human being is asking for information, until they’re asking for help, that advice, no matter how qualified it is, is going to fall on a closed mind.

So the first category of advice and the worst advice in the world is unsolicited, unqualified. The second worst advice in the world is advice that is unsolicited, although qualified.

So now we start to get into effectiveness here. The third category of advice, the third class of advice, and this is the second-most effective advice in the world, that is advice which is solicited, which is being asked for, it’s being sought out.

Even if it’s not qualified, it’s more valuable than the other two categories that we’ve talked about. Why? Because when someone is actively seeking a solution, somebody’s looking for a way to solve a problem that they have, they’ll move heaven and earth, they’ll do whatever it takes to get information.

And if you happen to be somebody that’s giving information and somebody comes to you for help, they’re mind is open, they’re eagerly seeking a way to fix this thing. If you are seeking your own result, you might get information that isn’t that qualified, but you still benefit more than these other categories because you’re the one asking.

But you’ll save yourself the most time and you’ll have the most fun by seeking for and by feeling for this last category. This is the fourth category of advice and in my experience, it beats everything else, hands down.

And this is advice that is solicited and qualified. Advice that is being looked for and is qualified.

So you, in your own journey through life, your own path of finding how to get more of what you want in your life, how to be more of who you feel you’re here to be, these are all journeys that we’re all on. You will save so much time by simply asking is this person qualified to advise me?

If you’re asking and you’re actively seeking solutions, all you have to then do is find out and ask yourself, is this person qualified? And I’m not talking about the certifications that they might have. That’s cool. In many cases, it’s mandatory.

But just because someone is certified doesn’t mean they’re credible. And the opposite is true as well. Many of the most credible, qualified people in the world don’t have any certifications, they don’t any pedigree or any formal education.

But you can tell that they embody the results that you wish to experience. They’re healthier, wealthier, they’re happier, they’re more fulfilled, they’re more present. These are examples of qualification.

And so if you do nothing more than ask yourself this one question, this person who’s attempting to advise me, am I open to receiving that? And are they qualified? It’s a simple question, but it’s a question that can save you years of trial and error. It can save you years of wondering if it’s going to work for you.

Simply look to qualification. Is this person, or are these people embodying the results that you wish to experience? It’s as simple as that.

And if you’re in the advice-giving business, whether you’re an advisor, consultant, or a parent, is the person that you are wanting to help, are they open to it? Are they asking for help?

It’s a pretty simple way of looking at things and one that I believe can save a lot of pain for everybody involved and just make this whole experience of life a lot more fun. So, please consider this and judge by results.

 

Mind Vitamin: The Greatest Freedom

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Rather than requiring
Others to change
For us to be happy.

What if we granted
The greatest freedom
Allowing everyone
Their own experience.

While focusing
Our powerful attention
On the expansion
Of our own well-being.

 

EPISODE TRANSCRIPT:

Freedom, joy, fulfillment, happiness, satisfaction, peace of mind, these are all pretty universally desired experiences, right?

I mean, isn’t that what we’re all working for? Isn’t that why we educate ourselves and go to work? And isn’t that why we work on ourselves, so we can have more of these things?

Well, if these are so universally desired, if being fulfilled, if being actually content with your life while striving for more, if these are such universally desired qualities, why aren’t more people living this right now?

I mean, when was the last time you had a conversation with somebody and you said, “Hey, how’s it goin’?”, and they said, “Man, you know what, “things are amazing actually, “things are actually going really good”? When’s the last time this was a natural part of your experience?

And, if you listen for it, haven’t you found that people always have a reason why it’s not okay for them to feel that way, at least not yet?

Because something has to change first. After all, we all know, fill in the blank, the others, whoever they are, the others are really messing it up for us.

It’s the other people on the other side of the world, or it’s those people who believe something different than we believe.

If only they would change the way that they’re living, if they would change what they believe to believe like we believe, then, then I could be happy, then I could be fulfilled. then, I can finally have peace of mind when the whole world behaves the way that I think that it should behave.

Look, I’m not making fun of anybody here. I’ve been on the other side of this many, many times myself. In fact, there have been long periods of my own life where I thought, if only that situation was different, if only this other person thought something different, then I could be happy.

But I realized that the greatest freedom is actually allowing other people to have their own experience. The greatest freedom is simply allowing another person to think what they have decided to think.

Just allowing somebody to believe whatever they’ve decided to believe. If somebody wants to believe something different than you, don’t they have every bit as much right to believe that as you have to believe in what you want to believe in?

And doesn’t it just make sense that this beautiful world that we live in has so much variety, and there’s so much space, and there’s so much resource available that everybody can have what they choose to have? And those people whose beliefs resonate with each other, don’t they tend to match up with each other and find each other?

And so, if it serves you, and if it makes you feel really good to fight and push against someone else’s beliefs, so that they change, so that then the world is the way you want it to be, look, if that gives you joy and that brings you fulfillment, you’re free to do that.

I’ve just observed that it is far more powerful when a human being takes full responsibility for their own independence, starting with the mental freedom to pay attention to their own life, to put their energy into their life, to focus on their health, on their relationships, to put their energy and their time and their choices into their own work, into their own environment, your personal environment, your home, your wardrobe, your vehicle.

This is your life we’re talking about, so, if it makes more sense to try and change everything on the outside before you allow yourself to start making those choices that actually relate to you, then you’re free to do that, too.

I’ve just observed that the life of an individual changes fast when all of the energy that used to go into trying to change other people instead goes back to the individual.

This is the greatest freedom, allowing others to have their own experience, while allowing yourself to have your own experience. And the best part about this freedom is that there are no requirements.

You don’t need to ask anybody for permission. You don’t need anyone’s approval. It’s your life. Your life is your personal private property. How you share it is up to you.

But just consider what happens when you take all the energy that used to go into changing other people, and you begin to focus it on yourself, and you begin to focus it on living the life that you want to live.

This is the greatest freedom, the greatest form of independence you can experience, allowing others to have their own experience.