One of the most beautiful feelings that we can have as human beings is connection. To connect with other people through communication, through friendship, through sharing, through love, through ideas. You know, even connecting with somebody because you disagree with them fulfills a pretty deep need that we all have.
This is why it’s so painful when we experience disconnection. When we experience rejection, or when we experience isolation. And this is one of the most painful things that we can feel as human beings, is that complete isolation, loneliness, disconnection from others, from the world. I’ve been there and I don’t know where you’re at right now, on that spectrum of isolation, but chances are you also know what that feels like.
And it’s so painful, it can be so painful that most of us will do anything to avoid being alone. Will do anything to avoid being isolated, and being by ourselves because that feeling of being lonely is just so bad. But I don’t believe that it has to be. I don’t think that that feeling of being in solitude has to be something to be feared. In fact, I’ve observed and experienced the exact opposite, that solitude can actually become a sort of superpower for you.
That if you allow yourself to just embrace those moments of solitude when they’re happening, and allow yourself to feel that energy that in the past you might have felt is loneliness or isolation, well maybe also within that is a certain amount of freedom. Freedom to think your own thoughts, and the freedom to feel your own feelings.
You know, the freedom to actually get to know yourself on a different level, and you can always go back to connect with people, there’s always ways to close that gap between being alone and being connected. So when you find yourselves in those moments of isolation.
When we find ourself in this moment of being completely alone, maybe instead of avoiding it, or distracted ourselves, or just running right back to be connected, what if you just embrace that feeling a little bit longer?
Get to know yourself on a whole new level, because then when you do come back to connect with others, you’re coming back as a fuller version of you. You’re coming back with a deeper understanding of who, and what you actually are. You’re coming back to the group, to the family, to your relationship, to your friends.
You’re coming back as a fuller version of who you actually are. And you can go back and enjoy that solitude anytime you want because I believe that that solitude is where you deepen your relationship with the most important person in your life, which is you.